As I waited at the stop sign for the children to get off the bus, I noticed a mother with a stroller and a sleeping baby waiting at the bus stop. I was only about 15 feet from the front of the bus and could see parents standing around. This mother was holding her smart phone with her head bent downward and at times would stop and then text or enter a number and then the phone went back up to her ear. I never saw her check on the baby in the stroller nor did she look up. Soon a cute little light skinned boy with curly brown hair about 5 or 6 years old jumped off the bus and waved a paper with a painting at his mother. Mom paid no attention to the boy so he grabbed her leg and shouted “look mom look mom”
She looked down at him and shouted “I told you not to talk to me when I’m on the phone.”
My heart sank and I wanted to cry as I’m sure that the little boy wanted to do. What an ideal time for communication. This amazing transition time when a child is enthusiastic about something he has created and at the same time happy to be getting home from school. Was this a dysfunctional communication moment? It certainly appeared that way. Would this be the base to poor communication for the next few minutes, hours and maybe even days?
The one major aspect of being a human being is that we are able to communicate orally. Have we forgotten to be thankful for this gift of true conversation? With the advent of smart phones we have a new addiction. Research shows that the average person with a smartphone texts an average of 100 time a day wow! This type of communication determines our lifestyle and our lifestyle determines our communication.
If we have an addiction of any kind such as shopping, drinking, drugs, sickness, foods whatever,
our typical conversation will include words, phrases and stories related to our addiction. Doesn’t sound like a learning listener and quality conversation to me. Therefore my challenge to you as a Blog reader is to look at everyone you speak with, eye to eye and belly to belly. This way you will be listening to the other person and as a reward you will learn something from what they say. So add to your communication lifestyle the ability to listen with your eyes.
You can improve your communication by helping yourself become more enlightened after hearing me speak at your next conference. Call now for more information or for a one on one Speech Coaching session.203 405 3972.
Carolyn Finch, the Body Language Expert known for her “Oops! Your Body Language is Showing” Keynote Speech, also speaks about “The Trinity of Health: Moving Well, Eating Well, and Thinking Well.” You can contact her at Electrific Solutions Inc. (203-405-3972) for more information about how to engage her to speak to your group. You can also visit her website: www.carolynfinch.com, or send an email to: [email protected]
It is reprinted with permission from the Hartford Springfield Speakers Blog. (http://hartfordspringfieldspeakers.blogspot.com/2016/04/what-is-your-communication-lifestyle.html)